Why do other people care who marries whom?

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  1. Punki
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    Are people crazy or what. What possible difference could it make who other people marry?

    If someone finds someone else who truly makes them happy, they should be left alone to enjoy their life.
     
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    Makes no difference to me. BTW your husband is all wrong for you, I'm, not sure what you were thinking. Doubt it will last. <evil grin>
     
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    Why are the people most vocal about defending marriage on their third marriage and have had affairs themselves?
     
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    I was thinking about all of the ignorant people on television who have been bashing Obama's support of legal rights for same sex couples. Why do they care?
     
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    Uh what, it's still a depression ? All this sensationalism got me distracted.....
     
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  6. Punki
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    Well I would be very surprised if our new marriage will las as long as our first one. :) Hardly anybody makes it to 80 years unless they start a lot younger than we did.

    :)
     
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    My guess is for religious reasons mainly, and some for political reasons - where they'd find a way to bash just about anything coming from "the other side".
     
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    Well I am pretty religious and my church definitely teaches against same sex unions, but I don't get it. Should people be forced to go through life being miserable and/or lonely just because they happen to fall in love with someone of the same gender?

    Last time I checked, love is one of those things that just sort of happens to us, whether we like it or not.
     
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    Because we all think we are right which must make anyone with a differing opinion wrong. It's the American Way.

    Congratulations on your long marriage. I am happily married to my first wife and we will celebrate 23 years of marriage next month.
     
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    My view is that the objection to same-sex marriage has the same motivation as opposition to abortion and opposition to birth control. All three represent either a conscious or subconscious attempt to force a specific set of narrowly-defined "Christian" values (I use quotes for "Christian" because I know many Christians who don't share these values) on everyone else. These people believe that life is sacred and the only purpose of sex is procreation. The idea that sex is something that allows two people to bond in intimate ways, or is simply fun, is anathema to them.

    I have yet to hear an objection to either SSM, abortion or birth control that is not, at its core, a religious objection.
     
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    I loved that line from a Senator (or someone equally as lame) when asked about gay marriage...

    He responded "Let them get married. After all, why shouldnt they be as miserable as the rest of us". Or something like that.

    Which is the perfect response.
     
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    wow what happened? :eek:
     
  13. baccarat_guy
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    Well, except the fact that these people often don't practice what they preach. [​IMG]

    I think we should just do away with this whole 'marriage concept' in it's entirety. Monogamous relationships are a totally outdated (and unnatural) concept.
     
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    I was just watching all of the fools on television deriding Obama for saying that same sex partners should have the same benefits as married partners. What possible difference could that make to anyone if someone else wants to provide for their life partner?

    Before I was married, I asked my Mother if she would like to fly out and meet Hunki before the wedding. She responded, "I will never have to wake up and look at him first thing in the morning. If he makes you happy, that's all that matters." I think that is the perfect attitude that we should all adopt.

    Regardless of race, creed, sex, or religion, if someone is lucky enough to find the person who makes them perfectly happy, they should be allowed to go in peace and be happy. True love is rare enough that it should be celebrated wherever it is found.
     
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    Hmmmmmmmm, I guess I must be a dinosaur. I think my monogamous relationship of over 40 years is pretty darned fantastic. :) Of course, I was lucky (or smart) enough to pick a really good one. :D
     
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    Just because it's good, doesn't mean that it's NOT an antiquated concept.

    8-track tapes were good, vinyl records were fantastic. [​IMG]

    My argument, is that the 'norm' is considered monogamy. I consider that to be flawed. Doesn't mean that people won't have INCREDIBLE monogamous long-lasting relationships.
     
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    I have a rule. I don't chat or post about religious or political issues. This one does a good job of pulling both elements in so I'm actually not posting.
     
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    It does seem to be getting a closer review now than it used to. Was it Germany that considered making marriages valid for only 7 years? The idea of putting a time bound "check in" on a constantly evolving union does spawn some interesting thoughts. Few things in life seem to be "good for a lifetime" anymore.
     
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    Not a bad rule. Those topics do seem to stir up quite a bit of dust... ;)

    Yes, you are very lucky to have your current situation, and you were very lucky to have ended up with that person (to enable your current situation). Congrats on both.
     
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    Taxes, million-miler status, and ghastly Celine Dion songs.
     
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    Clear evidence of why we REALLY need a Thumbs Up Smiley.
     
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    I think that the reason that its the "norm" is because that the way most people prefer it to be.

    There is certainly no reason that you can't stay single or find a relationship where monogamy is not expected. Its a pretty big world and there's room for a lot of different solutions. ;)
     
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    Wise words, Punki. :)

    And ours would be a much better world if more people had already had that particular insight.
     
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    I'll second that.
     
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    Because it's a common human trait to want to meddle in others' lives. It's also a common human trait to decide that the things you like to do are fundamental rights and should be protected, while the the things you find offensive should be outlawed, whether or not they affect anyone else at all.

    The good news is that things are slowly changing. The long-term polling trend in the US is undeniable. Opposition to gay marriage will be about as common in 50 years as opposition to interracial marriage is today (which is to say, it's not common at all, or at least not voiced when it is felt).
     

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