Point of large quantity of social-network "friends"?

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  1. violist
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    So on Facebook every couple days I get this notification that one
    in particular of my friends is now friends with someone.

    Out of curiosity, I checked her page, and she has 2374 of them. Now
    she's no more of a public figure than I am, doesn't have a retail
    business, is reasonably but not unbelievably social in real life.

    I have enough difficulty keeping up with my 140-odd FB friends,
    of whom 120 are people I have real life contact with (the others
    are BBSmates, all of whom I at least have met in person, or
    schoolmates from 35-40 years ago). My most gregarious FB
    friends generally have "only" 300-500.

    What's the point of having a gazillion of 'em - is it like hunting
    trophies or MiPo "likes"; and do people really measure their worth
    on this basis? Or is there a more tangible reason (bearing in mind
    that this person doesn't have a retail business).

    No judgment implied - just wondering.
     
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    I'm sure there are many for whom it is hunting trophies, others for whom it's just a fun passtime; who knows? It does look a bit obsessive, viewed from the outside anyway.
     
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    I was talking to mnmag about this, and I was joltingly brought to
    the realization how "outside" I really am.
     
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    I was at Denny's with John McCain the other morning, and we were trying to figure out how to "tweet" things. Apparently, it can't be done from a solar calculator. I am going to try it from a battery-operated one later in the week.:rolleyes:
     
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    Are you saying that I'm one of the odd 140? :p

    I have ~220 friends.
     
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    I shoot for big numbers on Linked In, but try to limit Facebook to "real" friends. The last thing I want to hear about is what new level some random person has reached in Farmville ...
     
  7. violist
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    @b - I wasn't aware that John McCain knew about solar technology.
    @d - you can choose whether or not to be 1. odd and 2. my friend!
    @G - it is possible to hide Farmville and such: I have 2 FBFs who
    trumpet that godforsaken stuff all over, but one of them is an
    actual friend of the BFF variety: hard to ignore the person, but
    the hide utility is most welcome.
     
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    Yes- similar situation here- figured out how to block that a wee while back, but I use that as more of an example. Most of us already get too much that doesn't really qualify as real "content" from actual friends. Couldn't imagine having to page thru the random thoughts of several thousand distant acquaintances.
     
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    Thats what I do here instead ;) But at least you can search!
     
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    A lot of folks on Facebook "friend" strangers for games such as farmville, cafeworld, or mafia wars. Those games require you to interact with other players on your friend list to get coins, items, points, etc. They meet the strangers looking for players of a common game on certain forums.
     
  11. violist
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    Ugh - I'd never fall for that.

    Just checked - the person in original question has 2447 - I don't think I could
    recognize 2447 people by face, including public figures and myself in that number.
     
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    I stay away from Linkedin members with more than 300 associates.... it is just not real or they are an agency.
     
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    Agreed. I am always wary of people with lots of LinkedIn contacts. I think of them as collectors (think stamp collecting).
     
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    or.... those people who collect miles and points!
     
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    Oh oh, I'm getting close to the edge- 242 contacts, and 5 requests that I haven't replied to yet. Maybe I need to purge some or I'll stop being real.
     
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    Yours may be different, you are selling your stuff. When I see guys that I have worked with for 25 years with 785 contacts, I just roll my eyes. It is like every one they ever talked to is a linkedin contact. I suppose these are the same folks who collect business cards.
     
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    most of my linkedin contacts are my liberal friends from OMNI. (My pals)
     
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    I think my number is large at 174, but when I break it down to the extended family, electrical friends across the country, and an online group from the old days on AOL it makes more sense for me. I like to keep in touch through FB especially due to the travel lately. And yes, it is great to be able to block all those game notices - UGH! That said, I cannot imagine actually caring about more than 200 people are doing, and even less that over 200 people would care about where I am or what I am doing on any given day!
     
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    I can maybe get this on the social sites... but where I get annoyed is when on professional sites like LinkedIn I get spam and invites from folks that I dont know and they say I am a "friend" or Ive done business with them (when its not true)..... playing around on FaceBook I can get, but on the work related sites.... whats the point.....???
     
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    I usually don't respond to LinkedIn.

    I'm good to go with Flyertalk, Facebook, some Twitter and Milepoint.
     
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    Can you imagine if FB actually had trophies/achievements? Eesh....
     
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    http://www.cbsnews.com/8301-504763_162-20122515-10391704.html
     
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    Most of my clients are not LinkedIn savvy so most of my linked in contacts are either current coworkers or friends.
    On Facebook I think I have 3-400 friends and I think that is too much sometimes, but I never know which high school friends I can finally defriend.
     
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    As someone bumped this, I went to the original subject's page, and
    she now has 3897 of 'em.
     
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