I'm having this debate with DH. Our friend suggested we should host a St. Patrick's day party. He agreed. I wasn't consulted. I log into facebook today and see that she created an event and invited HER friends to this party. We have maybe 40 mutual friends and she invited 70 people...to my house. I'm mad because 1) I won't be home for the event and 2) I have no clue who these people are. I don't even know them enough to be FB friends with them. This included 2 people who just very publically defriended us (since they are still friends with the other person) DH says he told her to invite anyone she wanted and doesn't care. I would never create a FB event at someone else's house and if for some reason I did, I would only invite mutual friends. I don't know why DH couldn't create this event himself and I don't know why we are coordinating it through FB at all when it's really for a social group that has its own website with events. DH is the webmaster for that site so it's not like he can't post events there. Am I overreacting? Would it change things if I added the fact that she's polyamorous and is inviting her boyfriend (and his wife), her husband's girlfriend (and her husband), and various other people all woven in her life but not in our circle of friends at all?