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Discussion in 'Off Topic' started by milchap, Feb 26, 2011.
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I am a pseudo extrovert.
Introvert... all the way.
I work from home and rarely see a person other than my wife. This has gone on for about 15-years. The main time I do see people it at my weekly Barbershop chorus rehearsals. However, I have often been a featured performer in our shows. I pour it all out, and am completely exhausted after the show.
p.s. My wife used to force me to go down to our friends antique store every other Saturday just to make me get out into the real world. She's since given up on that.
I do a lot that puts me in front of people, and enjoy it a lot.
I love dinner with my good friends, especially when it's a 3- or 4-hour affair.
I also like to eat by myself with my Kindle.
So what am I?
And does it matter?
Introvert with acquired extrovert abilities, though in almost any personality factor you test me on I end up almost dead center with a slight leaning...
I'm definitely an introvert. And yet I was successful at one stage in my career at fundraising (both political and non-profit) of all things. I've also done a good bit of public speaking, and was a successful debate coach as well.
Mind you, big difference between being shy and being introverted. I find interactions draining and I need time to myself to recharge.
In a way it does matter. It is your default mode of interacting....but you can program yourself for other modes....not always easy but doable.
Spoken like a Myers-Briggs koolaid drinker. I'm not a fan of MBTI because of its propensity to lead to stereotyping. I'm slightly more a fan of DiSC and a HUGE fan of enneagrams.
Sorry I can't help myself......I have a degree in counselling......
As for the enneagram..... the jury in my neck of the woods is still out....although I disclose that I am classified a 7.....
I've always looked at it as a way to evaluate your tendencies and know what you need to be aware of, watch out for, or sometimes rise above to become a more rounded person. Maybe you mean the same thing by "program"ing yourself.
This goes beyond introvert/extrovert but I'll throw in my 2 cents. It is good to have eccentricities and to be your own person, but to always be looking for how you might be able to understand another perspective better. For example, one test an organization I was working with gave measured event orientation vs. time orientation. I always felt there was something wrong with me for being what I now know is more event oriented, it was very freeing to discover many cultures are actually based around this way of thinking - conversely that knowledge has made it easier to be aware of my culture's time orientation and able to recognize when I need to conform to it to interact better with others.
Ah, but you're then a 5 when things are going very well and a 1 when under stress. That alone - the admission that our "types" move with our stress level - makes enneagrams far more interesting to me.
I'm an 8 - a Boss - who moves towards a 5 - an Observer - when I'm under stress, and a 2 - a Giver - when life is going well. That describes me more perfectly and far more easily than any MBTI or DiSC I've ever taken.
Indeed I do.
We do have a basic stance in life....but our reactions, our behaviors, our interactions are not cast in stone (my apologies to Gargoyle). We can change somewhat....otherwise we are doomed like groundhog day to repeat the past....
People who know me think I am very extroverted, but in reality, I usually take a while to absorb a situation or when I meet knew people and this makes me appear shy (or stuck up as I was once told).
Is that like asking if you're an "innie" or an "outie"?
I am both. When I am out socially I am extremely extroverted, but when I am home I am introverted. I work from home so that's where I spend most of my time.
It depends on the circumstances. I'm really neither -- I guess I'm just a vert.
What I think matters is understanding how you prefer to interact with people so you can adjust as the situation demands. I am introverted enough to need time alone to recharge my batteries and I find ways to make sure I get that so I can handle the demands of having to deal with other people much of the time.
Your post jolted my memory..... I find with age that I need more and more time for introspection and meditation on life.
you mean vert like this?
Prior to liquor: introvert, after liquor: lampshade on head usually in a bra and hula skirt.
Nah, that's "vertigris." Not to be confused with vertigo, either.
Definitely an extrovert, but not to the extreme. No lampshades, no look-at-me, just very outgoing, friendly, and talkative.
I was thinking 'vert' as in French for green.
I know -- I was just messin' with ya.